While parents of autistic children have plenty of information to deal with them and their different behavior, there is no such information or tools to manage a sibling who is autistic. The situation for the brothers and sisters of the autistic child is very stressful. The following tips can help children to deal with an autistic sibling.
At times, parents, in their involvement with the future and change of the autistic child forget that their other children too must deal with the situation. They may feel the new situation acutely, be jealous of the autistic child and feel neglected. Their friends may also tease them about having an autistic brother or sister which will cause stress. Thus behavioral problems may crop up; the sibling may act out and become a “problem child” to get the attention. The sibling may even try to hurt the autistic brother or sister to take him away from family ambience.
But that is only an occasional happening. The presence of an autistic sibling compels one to “grow up” and be responsible. A strong emotional attachment may develop and a keen longing to keep him or her safe in all circumstances. Living with an autistic sibling may teach one to be more open about another person’s difference. The company with an autistic sibling is a life enriching experience of emotional and mental strength and tolerance for others in life.
Find a support group to manage your autistic brother or sister. Resources should be available at the local chapter of the Autism society of America. This is very important as the siblings should not feel lonely and isolated in the new situation. Always try to increase family instruction. A family day or night a week should be ear marked when all children spend time with parents or other family members and partake of their day or week experiences and any problems.
The best thing is to neglect some aspect of your life and ask them for a moment of their time. That will be the best solution. It is the bounden duty of all parents to cater to and understand the needs of their children whether they autistic or normal. It is proper and healthy communication that helps the family run smoothly without any hitches.
